Steveperrywriter
Well-known member
As I understand it, “Aloha,” can mean affection, peace, compassion, mercy, or all of them together. It conveys a kind of laid-back, live-and-let-live attitude, and I like the notion, mostly, most of the time.
Sometimes, however, people here get into a discussion about this or that, there is a clash, and almost immediately, one or both get chided for not showing the aloha spirit.
“Chill, dude, you need to be more aloha.”
“Guy whacks me over the head with a metaphorical nightstick and I need to be more aloha? Really?”
Got into a debate that stretched across a couple of uke threads, the end result of which was that a couple of us aren’t listening to each other any more.
It happens. People with different personalities and opinions don't always agree, and sometimes the disagreements get quite spirited. It's what makes a horse race. (And I confess, sometimes I don't observe the Buddhist notion of Right Speech: 1) Is it true? 2) Is it necessary? 3) Is it kind? I struggle with it, I try, but ...)
I am by training and experience, argumentative. There are varied definitions of that word, not all of them bad. I enjoy a good debate, and if somebody brings evidence or reasoning better than what I got, I have no problem in changing my belief on the matter.
Oh, wow, yeah, you’re right. My mistake.
No shame in ignorance, the world is chock full of stuff about which I don’t know squat. One of the reasons I come here is because there are folks who are experts in the care and feeding of ukuleles, and I want to learn.
It still kind of amazes me that someone will offer something provocative and then be completely surprised when it provokes people. All we have to play with here are words, so choosing them carefully is probably a better way to go than just tossing stuff out willy-nilly.
A hypothetical conversation:
“Hey, if you pay more than ______ (fill in the amount) for a ______(fill in the instrument), you are getting ripped off. Not worth it."
“Yeah? Well, I think you’re wrong.”
“What? How dare you, you doddering old windbag bully!”
“That’s what you got? You're a twerp!”
Yeah, yeah, I admit it, been there, done that, and I should be more aloha, but ...
If you step into the bar and spit into somebody’s beer? You ought to expect an unhappy response. If you were aiming at the spittoon and missed, fine, probably you should explain that. Otherwise, you might wind up wearing that spit and beer.
Aloha ...
Sometimes, however, people here get into a discussion about this or that, there is a clash, and almost immediately, one or both get chided for not showing the aloha spirit.
“Chill, dude, you need to be more aloha.”
“Guy whacks me over the head with a metaphorical nightstick and I need to be more aloha? Really?”
Got into a debate that stretched across a couple of uke threads, the end result of which was that a couple of us aren’t listening to each other any more.
It happens. People with different personalities and opinions don't always agree, and sometimes the disagreements get quite spirited. It's what makes a horse race. (And I confess, sometimes I don't observe the Buddhist notion of Right Speech: 1) Is it true? 2) Is it necessary? 3) Is it kind? I struggle with it, I try, but ...)
I am by training and experience, argumentative. There are varied definitions of that word, not all of them bad. I enjoy a good debate, and if somebody brings evidence or reasoning better than what I got, I have no problem in changing my belief on the matter.
Oh, wow, yeah, you’re right. My mistake.
No shame in ignorance, the world is chock full of stuff about which I don’t know squat. One of the reasons I come here is because there are folks who are experts in the care and feeding of ukuleles, and I want to learn.
It still kind of amazes me that someone will offer something provocative and then be completely surprised when it provokes people. All we have to play with here are words, so choosing them carefully is probably a better way to go than just tossing stuff out willy-nilly.
A hypothetical conversation:
“Hey, if you pay more than ______ (fill in the amount) for a ______(fill in the instrument), you are getting ripped off. Not worth it."
“Yeah? Well, I think you’re wrong.”
“What? How dare you, you doddering old windbag bully!”
“That’s what you got? You're a twerp!”
Yeah, yeah, I admit it, been there, done that, and I should be more aloha, but ...
If you step into the bar and spit into somebody’s beer? You ought to expect an unhappy response. If you were aiming at the spittoon and missed, fine, probably you should explain that. Otherwise, you might wind up wearing that spit and beer.
Aloha ...