For years we did Four Christmases. My mom, my dad, Nanilei's mom, Nanilei's dad. Then we also had OUR Christmas. And Christmas with Nanilei's sister and BIL.
It was EXHAUSTING.
My dad's birthday was on Christmas Day, so I always used the excuse that since it was his birthday, Dad gets priority on Christmas Day. His house was also the second-most low key, so it worked out well.
After he passed, we started going to Hawaii every other Christmas. No gifts for us please, see you next year. It was great.
Now that we are here, we are back to Three Christmases when we go to California... But it's alright, we really do enjoy seeing everyone.