This stays on this thread, please. No Facebook crossover.
This stays on this thread, please. No Facebook crossover.
So here's the rest of the story:
Bond, Vaga Bond brought his lady over on Monday afternoon so they could announce to us that they are having a baby. Oh joy. This just 3 days after we finalized non-refundable airline reservations for the 4 of us to go to the Big Island in April. He works a part time job delivering pizzas and thinks he will be set if he can get another part time job. They want to live together and raise the baby. He's pissed at both of us and claims to be an adult. All he can think of is scooping up money. But he's thrilled to have a child to raise, teach guitar, yada yada. Mind you, he barely graduated high school and she was home schooled, having grown up in a home where her father served a hard 7 for meth sales and is out of the house being a meth head again. He and the girl met because B V-B was buying pot from him.
A week or so previously he got his car serviced but couldn't pay the bill. It's a local business and I have standing in the community. He asked me to pay the bill for him, promising to pay me back. Yesterday morning I asked him to pay me back. I told him that adults pay their bills. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. It did not go well. He thinks I don't need the money and he does because he's about to have a kid, therefore the money is his. Much anger and many expletives followed. This is how the conversation ended:
He: "Say one more word and I will hit you in the face so f*cking hard."
Me: "Step away."
He did step away.
I went to my office. He began moving his stuff out.
I hate the brokenness of our relationship. But we cannot have him in this household with all his abusive drama. Neither Mrs Pere nor I have much of a sense of hope or connection to what he wants to call our grandchild.
He is at the end of a long rope knotted with bad choices. For the last 5 years or more he has consistently chosen things contrary to our guidance and advice, and at the same time contrary to the things he says he wants for himself. Glad he's out. I wish he'd take his cats.
This stays on this thread, please. No Facebook crossover.