Janebug
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I’m 64 and have been learning for about 10 months. About a month ago I began to feel ready to play for others – my spouse, my mother & siblings, and at the music school’s open house. Of course they were encouraging! Now it’s the season of get-togethers and we will be visiting numerous old friends not seen since last year (due to a round trip drive of 4 hours, but this time of year we make that drive several times).
So my uke is really the biggest change in my life for the past year, and I have been practicing hard to memorize a few songs, should I be asked to play. This weekend we attended one of these parties, but there wasn’t a good opportunity to play – too much roar – but beyond that, when I was catching up on my news with our host, he didn’t even seem that much interested. He has been a close friend and it took me aback. I had prepared for sharing, but I had not prepared for indifference. I ended up shlepping my uke 100 miles by car, 20 minutes by subway and 15 minutes on foot – and back again, without taking it out of the bag. It turned out playing wasn’t appropriate for that occasion, and that’s fine, but I felt kind of foolish.
It’s not my way to claim the spotlight – rather the opposite - and I certainly don’t want to be annoying by insisting on it, especially since I am not that great at this point. (I do sing well so it shouldn’t be too painful.) But I did think that sharing was one of the primary goals and joys of the uke. I am just wondering how to strike the social balance. If nobody requests it, do I bring my uke out? Perhaps the problem is I unrealistically yearn to be June Allyson in some old movie, hanging out on the porch surrounded by laughing and singing chums. But my chums are mostly nearing retirement and haven’t been in the habit of singing together! Will they ever want to? I don’t know. I never hung around with any musicians. I don’t know how to get started at a party, or when to try.
Just wondering what other experiences have been, sharing and shining when you’ve never been the center of attention.
So my uke is really the biggest change in my life for the past year, and I have been practicing hard to memorize a few songs, should I be asked to play. This weekend we attended one of these parties, but there wasn’t a good opportunity to play – too much roar – but beyond that, when I was catching up on my news with our host, he didn’t even seem that much interested. He has been a close friend and it took me aback. I had prepared for sharing, but I had not prepared for indifference. I ended up shlepping my uke 100 miles by car, 20 minutes by subway and 15 minutes on foot – and back again, without taking it out of the bag. It turned out playing wasn’t appropriate for that occasion, and that’s fine, but I felt kind of foolish.
It’s not my way to claim the spotlight – rather the opposite - and I certainly don’t want to be annoying by insisting on it, especially since I am not that great at this point. (I do sing well so it shouldn’t be too painful.) But I did think that sharing was one of the primary goals and joys of the uke. I am just wondering how to strike the social balance. If nobody requests it, do I bring my uke out? Perhaps the problem is I unrealistically yearn to be June Allyson in some old movie, hanging out on the porch surrounded by laughing and singing chums. But my chums are mostly nearing retirement and haven’t been in the habit of singing together! Will they ever want to? I don’t know. I never hung around with any musicians. I don’t know how to get started at a party, or when to try.
Just wondering what other experiences have been, sharing and shining when you’ve never been the center of attention.