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Kyle23
07-11-2016, 10:08 PM
A few months ago, I received my dream uke directly from KoAloha and shortly after I basically completely lost interest in ukulele all together. When I first got it, I played non stop but for the past couple of months, I have barely picked it up. It seems like the thrill of the chase is gone there's nothing left to do. I have gone through drouts in the past, but this one feels different. I still take it out of the case to look at it sometimes, but the urge to play or even use this very website is almost nonexistent. It makes me feel terrible because the circumstances that lead me to the KoAloha were great and I should be really giving this instrument attention. Has anyone else had this type of thing happen to them? Am I crazy? Where do I go from here? WHY AM I LIKE THIS

Croaky Keith
07-11-2016, 10:19 PM
The Seasons keep me going - new challenge each week - they've helped me to improve & try new things - why not give them a go. :)

Camsuke
07-11-2016, 10:39 PM
I think most of us experience disinterest at some stage, you're not alone there. Maybe try learning some new songs or techniques or even teaching others, this can be very rewarding and inspiring and might just be what you need to rekindle the fire.

PhilUSAFRet
07-11-2016, 10:44 PM
For some of us, it's a personality issue. I have had many interests in my life and many of them just got dropped along the way. Trying new things does not always end abruptly, but sometimes it does. The "thrill of the chase" is an apt descriptor and is likely a component of UAS. If you haven't yet done so, give this a try:

http://www.meetup.com/BuffaloUkuleleClub/

Mivo
07-12-2016, 12:29 AM
It probably means you should try a guitar. ;)

Seriously, though, whenever I overdo something, especially if it's something that involves a lot of enthusiasm, there will inevitably be a period of backlash (disinterest) also. Life always seems to seek balance. It's also possible that the chase filled some perceived lack or dissatisfaction in your life, and now that the distraction of the chase is over and the goal met, the attraction to the unfulfilled desire is gone. I have had that happen with a lot of things, especially when I was younger (20s, partly in the 30s too). I always needed something that's just out of reach in order to be excited and cover up life issues I wasn't happy with, some kind of purpose, something to look forward to, and when I met that goal (within what's realistic), the passion evaporated. The chase is kind of addictive. I think the proper term for it is "hedonistic adaption".

My perspective shifted a bit and I try to focus more on the experience of the presence. The journey, really. That works well at times, and barely at others. That doesn't mean I don't have ukulele goals. My fingerpicking skill is poor and there are a lot of techniques and styles I'd like to learn. That is slow process for me, but I draw momentum from the improvements I notice. The thrill of getting better is sometimes a driving force, and other times I simply play or noddle for unconditional enjoyment (kind of like meditation).

Anyway, I wouldn't overthink it. If you don't enjoy it and there's currently no excitement to be had for you, then that's what it is, and it's fine. It's a hobby, not a job or a marriage. Do what does inspire and drive you, and who knows, the ukulele interest may come back. You had a lot of fun with the KoAloha concert, and those good times already justified getting it. Take it easy.

padlin
07-12-2016, 12:46 AM
Now that you've brought it up, I guess I too tend to drop hobbies, could be the "thrill of the chase". Hoping the uke isn't one of them, usually it takes a number of years and I've only been playing a year. Other then that possibility, might just be me, but I find I play a lot less now that the weather is good. Like you, I live in the north and find there's just too much else I like to do outside. Same thing I tend to do with going to the gym. I still enjoy playing, but not like I did over the winter and into the spring. Went from a couple hours a day to maybe 20 minutes.

I had thought about picking up a concert size (only have tenors) to see of it re piques my interest. Haven't acted on it yet though.

Croaky Keith
07-12-2016, 12:59 AM
These thoughts about a different size uke, (or maybe full on electric with an amp, etc), or a different instrument altogether are good ideas.

A new instrument is always a new challenge - try a harmonica, or a flute, or something completely different like an ocarina, or violin - something should take your fancy if you visit an online shop & look around. :)

(Also, with the better weather, I have slowed down with the uke - but come the long nights, I expect to do more again.)

Doc_J
07-12-2016, 01:45 AM
As other folks here have said, maybe it's life balance, maybe you've achieved your goals, maybe you've found some new interests. A friend of mine and I, often discuss how it's hard to keep more than one main hobby active. Human beings really don't multitask well. We really just do one thing at a time.

stevejfc
07-12-2016, 02:48 AM
Seasons come and seasons go................and so do hobbies and interests. When I hit a ukulele lull, I usually try writing a new song............this generally perks up my interest.
Of course, there is that old standby: Buy another ukulele!

UkerDanno
07-12-2016, 02:51 AM
Do you play with a group, If not find one! I play with 2 groups regularly and another occasionally. It's a social thing as much as anything. Keeps things interesting with the songs other people bring in.

I found my "holy grail" and in the last year have played the heck out of it!

DownUpDave
07-12-2016, 02:54 AM
It is ok to feel that way. Sometimes others things have to take a bigger priority. When that happens our attention changes focus. As Doc J said it is hard to multi task. I noticed your new avatar.

bearbike137
07-12-2016, 03:57 AM
Ah... but you are still here....

there is hope for you yet!

That said, I honestly never feel that way about ukulele. I now understand why George Harrison put down his guitar to pick up a ukulele. For years I never understood that (I am a life-long guitar player) - but now I completely get it. A great tenor uke just touches my soul....

Rllink
07-12-2016, 04:26 AM
A few months ago, I received my dream uke directly from KoAloha and shortly after I basically completely lost interest in ukulele all together. When I first got it, I played non stop but for the past couple of months, I have barely picked it up. It seems like the thrill of the chase is gone there's nothing left to do. I have gone through drouts in the past, but this one feels different. I still take it out of the case to look at it sometimes, but the urge to play or even use this very website is almost nonexistent. It makes me feel terrible because the circumstances that lead me to the KoAloha were great and I should be really giving this instrument attention. Has anyone else had this type of thing happen to them? Am I crazy? Where do I go from here? WHY AM I LIKE THISThat is an interesting sentence. "The thrill of the chase is gone." What was motivating you to play before you got your dream uke? What were your expectations for the KoAloha and why did you want it? Did it meet those expectations? What I'm getting at here, is that I recently watched a friend go through something like this with a guitar. He plays classical guitar. He saved up for almost a year and bought this dream guitar. It was supposed to be the cat's meow. But when he finally got it and played it, it was no better than the guitar that he was playing before. He spent all this time reading and dreaming about this guitar, and spent all that money, and it wasn't the guitar that he thought it would be. So he got real depressed over it and didn't want to play. He would just look at it. Finally he stuck it in an upstairs closet out of sight, and started playing his old guitar again. He is back in business. He told me that his old guitar felt like an old friend that he liked hanging out with. I just thought that your story sounded familiar.

NatalieS
07-12-2016, 04:26 AM
I've definitely gone through phases with ukulele playing. I moved on to guitar, then tenor guitar, and ultimately came back to the uke. For me, one thing that gave me a boost was to start taking lessons. I only have a lesson every few months but it's just often enough to keep me thinking in a forward direction with my playing. I'm not looking to be an aficionado and definitely don't want to put so much pressure on myself that it feels like work rather than enjoyable. But so far it's been great. Maybe it's something you might consider?

wayfarer75
07-12-2016, 04:43 AM
I'm in a lull right now. Thinking about getting a microphone on a Prime Day deal; maybe recording will spur me on a bit.

dirtiestkidever
07-12-2016, 04:49 AM
It is ok to feel that way. Sometimes others things have to take a bigger priority. When that happens our attention changes focus. As Doc J said it is hard to multi task. I noticed your new avatar.

The new avatar does hold a clue doesn't it. ;) I go through lulls too. Often because work, family, or other aspects of life take up more time. But I also have found that getting a good new book helps reinvigorate me. Or switching between low and high G. Two books that got me back into at times were Ukulelezaza books (high G) and Daniel Ho's Polani book (low G). Now I always try to play every couple days even through the lulls. I gave up guitar for several years and I really regret that because of how much I backslid in terms of progress. I think playing every couple days should at least prevent regression.

MincerRay
07-12-2016, 05:05 AM
Do you play with a group, If not find one! I play with 2 groups regularly and another occasionally. It's a social thing as much as anything. Keeps things interesting with the songs other people bring in.

This. I bought my first uke, played it for a few months, then lost interest. 2 years later, I stumbled upon a small group playing ukes at a resort I frequent and I joined in. It turns out, I'm a decent player and singer. I'm pretty sure I'd lose interest if I weren't playing with a group of compatible people. We challenge each other to play better, learn new techniques, and become tighter as a group. We've been doing this for 2 years now and it's been very rewarding.

SteveZ
07-12-2016, 05:22 AM
For me, it's been an experiment going through the different types of ukes. As the signature shows, there's a slew of different types currntly in the stable. I've found that I go through periods where one or two dominate my time, then they fade away, only to be replaced with a couple others. Today, the 8-string and the RISA are on top. Prior to them it was a banjo-uke and the 6-string. Who knows what pair will be next?

So, the question is really, has one just got tired of music in general, or just tired of the one-uke concept? If the former, then the OP probably would never have made the original post. If the latter, then perhaps adding something unique (e.g., banjo-uke, electric, 8-string, etc.) into the mix may spark the interest. That would still have the KoAloha as something special when the mood hits, and the challenge of something new when that mood hits, too.

Twibbly
07-12-2016, 05:37 AM
I'm in a lull right now. Thinking about getting a microphone on a Prime Day deal; maybe recording will spur me on a bit.

I went looking after seeing this post. There's a little $12 one (not even one of the Prime sales) that I might pick up eventually. Yeah, it won't be the best...but I'm pretty certain it's better than the one on my phone! https://www.amazon.com/Professional-Microphone-Condenser-Smartphones-Cancelling/dp/B017DWVDJE/

wayfarer75
07-12-2016, 05:48 AM
I went looking after seeing this post. There's a little $12 one (not even one of the Prime sales) that I might pick up eventually. Yeah, it won't be the best...but I'm pretty certain it's better than the one on my phone! https://www.amazon.com/Professional-Microphone-Condenser-Smartphones-Cancelling/dp/B017DWVDJE/

I splurged and got a Blue Yeti. :o:o:o I figure if I don't like it or use it, someone will buy it off me for close to what I paid!

cml
07-12-2016, 05:57 AM
A microphone setup is indeed fun to play around with, I went with a audio interface and a condenser mic myself ;).

Kyle23
07-12-2016, 06:41 AM
Too many replies to comment on all of them, but a few stuck out. The one about your friend getting his dream guitar I kind of relate to. I haven't bonded with my KoAloha that much, but I don't think it's because I liked my old one better because I haven't been playing that one either.

And to Dave, I've been dating my girlfriend for a year, but I just recently changed my avatar. I knew someone was going to say that though haha definitely a good theory!

Maybe I'll join a group. I always wanted one friend to jam out with though. Not really a group, but a good friend to just hang out in the back yard and play for a couple hours every now and then. Thanks for all the responses though, I read all of them.

One more thing. It seems like I'm always on one of my three hobbies with basketball, uke, and drawing. Seems like right now I'm stuck in the drawing one, but it still seems like this time the ukulele is completely out of mind.

Twibbly
07-12-2016, 06:54 AM
One more thing. It seems like I'm always on one of my three hobbies with basketball, uke, and drawing. Seems like right now I'm stuck in the drawing one, but it still seems like this time the ukulele is completely out of mind.

So....draw your uke!

kohanmike
07-12-2016, 08:17 AM
Played guitar almost 50 years and 3 years ago took up the uke, never touched my guitars again. I'm with a uke group that meets twice a week, which kept me going, but about 18 months ago started playing bass uke with them and have to make myself pickup the uke. Just started with a once a month uke group just to keep my hands on, and otherwise attend play alongs from time to time.

SoloRule
07-12-2016, 09:40 AM
Since you are still posting here which tells me you have not given up on uke yet.
There are two ways to deal with this withdrawal.
1) drive up to Toronto (It's only 2 1/2 hour from Buffalo) to play with us. Before you make the trip, take purchase orders from us e.g. strings, uke etc so we could save on handling fee!
2) sell your beautiful KoAloha to me.:)

WCBarnes
07-12-2016, 11:35 AM
Maybe I'll join a group. I always wanted one friend to jam out with though. Not really a group, but a good friend to just hang out in the back yard and play for a couple hours every now and then.

What better place to find someone you could jam with than at a ukulele group!

Booli
07-12-2016, 01:04 PM
I splurged and got a Blue Yeti. :o:o:o I figure if I don't like it or use it, someone will buy it off me for close to what I paid!

The Blue Yeti is a GREAT mic. The company 'Blue' ONLY makes microphones, and they are all pro-level quality. I'd be real surprised if you do not like the sound it captures.

I saw that deal too, and would be tempted if not already been VERY satisfied with my Apogee MiC, which is on sale as a refurb from Apogee for at least $50 off the regular price from time to time...(still available as per below)

http://www.apogeedigital.com/shop/apogee-mic-refurbished

chuck in ny
07-12-2016, 01:36 PM
you are making something simple into a psychodrama. your experiences in getting your ultimate instrument were precious, and valid. if you are in a hiatus, don't fret. leave it alone for a while. you will come back to playing it, because you have music in your heart. all of us do. don't take something simple and make it complicated. you have done the heavy lifting already. from now just let be.

KaraUkey
07-12-2016, 02:57 PM
Maybe it's just a little touch of "buyers remorse". An expectation of your brand new uke that wasn't met when you finally got it. It's probably no big deal and it will pass. But if you want to rekindle your enthusiasm, I agree with the advice of many, that you should join a group. Take the new uke so others can admire it. A group continually sets new challenges and delivers new experiences. There is nothing quite like a lot of people making music together.

JustinJ
07-12-2016, 05:17 PM
Why did you start playing ukulele? Did you want to play songs? Did you achieve what you wanted from the uke?


Many people do not realize the amount of time and effort it takes to get good at something. It takes a lot of work and the results are never overnight.

This is just my opinion but I think many people think that a new instrument will give them the incentive to play. If you start with this premise then it will fail. You should just play for the enjoyment or challenge. If you can not enjoy your current instrument as longs as it is setup well, then a new instrument will be no better.


I think it is a good idea for every one to play the instrument they have and make headway learning to play it. It's too easy to think a new instrument will make you better. Why get caught up in the cycle of buying instruments?* Play what you have, learn it well and then purchase something later when you have more of idea what you truly like.

*Some people are collectors and enjoy buying instrument. This is a hobby in itself. I am referencing people who want to learn an instrument.

Joyful Uke
07-13-2016, 08:41 AM
If you can not enjoy your current instrument as longs as it is setup well, then a new instrument will be no better.

I disagree, at least in some cases.

If you have, for example, small hands, you might need to find a different ukulele to accomodate your hands.

If you have back, neck, shoulder, or other pain, you might find a different size ukulele, or different brand of ukulele to be a better option.
It's hard to keep going if the enjoyment is marred by pain, or if the ukulele just isn't the appropriate one for you. We're all built differently and many of us have different physical issues, so it's quite possible that a ukulele that might work perfectly for one person is not at all the right ukulele for another.

I know when I first bought a ukulele, it never occurred to me that there could be a big difference between the different sizes, different brands, different necks, and so on. (Some of you have that awareness with the first ukulele, but not all of us do.) I would have never continued to play if I had stuck with that first ukulele. But, with a ukulele that is more appropriate for me, a day isn't complete unless I've had a chance to play at least a little bit.

Joyful Uke
07-13-2016, 09:23 AM
To to original OP:
Any chance that a learning plateau is the cause for dwindling interest?
If so, maybe this article will be of interest:
http://www.bulletproofmusician.com/how-to-get-unstuck-and-break-through-learning-plateaus/

Nickie
07-13-2016, 04:56 PM
This is a really important topic.
I would check for any other signs of depression. I'm not kidding. When I can't pick up my best uke and at least try and play and sing something, I know I'm headed for the ditch.
Then I do something about it.
At least a uke isn't a phone, which I hate.

jddennis
07-14-2016, 03:08 AM
I went through a big lull from between 2013 to 2015. There were a lot of factors -- I was working on an independent movie with friends (providing song arrangement and performing on guitar), met a girl, married her, had several instruments stolen from me (!) and returned, and really got involved with podcasting.

I tried picking up my ukuleles during that time, but couldn't really get into it during that period. The closest was my guitalele. But with the heavy focus on guitar, the chord forms felt more natural.

Back in March of 2016, my wife and I went to Oahu. Just being there was a big spark to my desire to play the ukulele. I picked one up at the flea market, and it was really inspiring. I've been taking it everywhere to play. Also, my wife became interested, so we often will sit together and swap it back and forth.

I think it's natural to have periods of ups and downs in interests. As an encouragement, I think you'll come back to it. It could take a while, but peaks and valleys occur in many different life areas.

Kyle23
07-14-2016, 03:28 PM
After reading these posts and thinking for a couple of days, whoever suggested the plateau in learning could be right. Whenever I pick up my uke, I play the same few songs and then get bored and put it back down. I don't want to toot my own horn, but I feel like I progressed so quickly when I first learned and got pretty good, but then it stopped there. Just at pretty good. I got a lot of compliments on my playing and then stopped trying. I'm going to try and learn some new stuff and see how it makes me feel. I already feel a bit better after reading the free KoAloha thread, something about it turned my head around. That's what it's all about.

Joyful Uke
07-14-2016, 04:55 PM
Just a suggestion. Buy a Jazz Standards fake book.

For me, it wouldn't be a jazz standards, but fingerpicking Beatles' tunes, some classical, and so on. With no singing from me.

The important thing is to find something that you want to play, whatever it may be, and get inspired by your choices.

TaoCat
07-14-2016, 05:13 PM
There's been some excellent suggestions here. One thing that really works for me is to hear music that inspired me to take up the instrument in the first place. Especially live music. I've been inspired to pick up an instrument after years of neglect by incidentally hearing it played by a busker or at a formal performance. Even recorded music can inspire me to play at times.