Graham Greenbag
Well-known member
I visit another forum where the personal attacks have gotten so bad that Admin had to set up a separate section for nastiness. One thing I appreciated when I joined UU was the civility and politeness. That seems to be changing, though.
I notice more and more negative comments that are totally unnecessary. It used to be that a member would apologize when he realized that something he said could be taken the wrong way. Now, it seems that people are looking for ways to insult and put down others. Why?
This is a ukulele forum. It's not about politics or religion, so we don't have to fight and attach each other. There's that old expression: "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."
Funny you should mention this Jerry and I’m sad to say that I think that you’re correct. In the years that I’ve been here there has almost always be a spirit of Aloha here which maybe some people have lost and newer arrivals aren’t aware of.
I’ll take this definition of Aloha: “Aloha is an essence of being: love, peace, compassion, and a mutual understanding of respect. Aloha means living in harmony with the people and land around you with mercy, sympathy, grace, and kindness.”
https://www.skylinehawaii.com/blog/the-meaning-of-aloha
Three questions to ask yourself before posting:
- Is it true?
- Is it kind?
- Is it helpful?
I think that that is a pretty good general guide and all forums would be better places for sticking with the spirit of it.
Of course sometimes things that are not kind need to somehow be expressed, but so long as it’s done in away that can be accepted then that’s fine. However, if it can’t be said in a suitable way then sometimes it is indeed better to say nothing at all and wait for a more suitable opportunity to help positive change.
Cosmos was mentioned further up the thread. I’m a member of Cosmos too, in my experience it’s not a forum that will suit everyone. However, once you get used to it and you better understand it’s ‘different’ nature, it’s really not a bad place. Cosmos is like Marmite: some people like it and some really do not. I like Marmite and I like Cosmos too ... but IMHO potential members should expect it to be a case of YMMV.
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