Originally Posted by Loretta Devine
The fact that a person loves one particular person is what is important; the life lesson, whether you are homosexual or heterosexual, is that you not be promiscuous, and true to one person.
Odd comments, given the nature of the thread. Since when was this a monogamy-only group?
And the term "douche bag" from an earlier post in this thread isn't exactly nonjudgmental, either.
It's so easy to pass one's values off as the norm. Remember, there's a whole world of differentness out there. Let's try and be accepting on as many levels as we can.
Very good point. The douchebag tangent this thread took used the assumption that we all consider a certain type of person to be a douchebag. Assumptions are dangerous - and often erroneous - things to make, particularly when they are negatively slanted. A thread promoting love and acceptance is at odds with condemning a group of people who look a certain way, isn't it?
But a bigger problem with micro-regulating the forum is that you're starting to get into
beliefs, not just
behavior. Hateful homophobia expressed publicly is indeed offensive. But isn't it a person's right to
feel homophobic? Or agrophobic? Whether you like it or not, you have to accept the fact that some people are violently offended by the notion of homosexuality, which goes against their deeply held beliefs. Similarly, some people are violently offended by non-monogamous sex. Or by drug use. Or by certain political parties. I submit they have a right to those beliefs. It's how they choose to
express those beliefs here that we're really talking about. Bottom line: we're not all going to believe the same things, and it's wrong and unrealistic to expect us to.
But regardless of what we
believe, we can all agree on how we
behave. And the "don't be a jerk" rule seems to cover it. You know there are gay people on this forum. So, following the "don't be a jerk" concept, you know not to say anti-gay things here. You know there are Christians here. And Hawaiians. And women. And old people. And young people. And left-handed people. And so on. Bearing that in mind, it's not hard to determine what would or would not be offensive, if you give your posts a little thought.
But avoid assumptions. Assuming that we all hate muscular orange-skinned people is one such assumption. But assuming that we all share the same attitude towards orange muscular people with moussed hair, monogamy, gender preference, or mimes is not realistic.
I offer you a four-step plan:
1) Hold true to your own beliefs.
2) Be open to changing those beliefs.
3) Respect the beliefs of others.
4) Be nice.
It ain't so hard.