My husband learned this the hard way but now everytime I want something I bring up his Kindle purchase.I toally agree with you here.
My husband learned this the hard way but now everytime I want something I bring up his Kindle purchase.I toally agree with you here.
If money isn't an issue, I don't see what is. She does not need to control your happiness just to have control. Buy your ukulele(s), and buy her something she has been eyeballing, or suggest she do so on her own accord.
If money were an issue, that would be a whole different story.
Personally, I think that's a really dumb idea. If my husband were to buy me a paintball marker I'd know it's because it was something he wanted and not me. I'd be miffed to receive such a "gift" when he knows I have absolutely no interest in paintball.
I toally agree with you here.
Haha yeah, but it's not that old, lol.Did anyone ever see the really really old Simpsons episode where Homer was shopping for a birthday present for Marge and bought her the bowling ball he had been wanting (complete with HIS name on it)? That was all I could think about when I read the first post about getting her the uke. I have to say, that would probably NOT go over well. She might say something like "Oh thanks.... here's what I want to do with MY ukulele.... SMASH" . Even if she didn't do anything that drastic, she would likely be upset and take it as a low estimation of her intelligence (which would be kind of hard to blame her for).
Maybe she feels that she is losing attention. Have you tried spending more time with her to see if that helps? Is there anything you two do together that brings you both joy? Say, a hobby or going somewhere like a park, bike ride, museum, movies, theater, etc?
She is now my ex-wife. Oh, and I buy all the ukuleles I want.
Listen to the woman. :agree:
I've been married 26 years, second marriage. We long ago stopped fighting over toys. We each have interests, and we each have "mad money." It gives me joy to see her spend on something she likes, and I think the reverse is true. We even joke about it.
But we also have things we love to do together, and I make sure that I pay attention to those things.
I think it's time to play the ukes you have, and spend time with the bride. Then, when you are both calm, talk about some mad money for each of you, that you each get to spend on yourselves.
And writing a love song is not a bad idea either.
Good luck!:
She still doesn't understand it. I offered to impose a limit on how many ukes I own at once, meaning that a new purchase beyond the limit would require something else to get sold. We couldn't quite agree on that, as she thought a reasonable number would be two. I did suggest that I could sell my soprano if I were to buy this uke on eBay.
After talking about it for some time as we lay in bed, she fell asleep. We never came to a firm agreement. She was gone to work when I got up.